That is so awesome!! I think it's really about finding the essence of what your dream is. Which in your case, would be experiencing something new with your husband. And there you go, monthly date nights provide that for you! And then maybe at some point, you can make the dream of traveling the world a reality!
If money wasn’t a thing I would live near my sister and have a slow and simple life where I shop locally, eat seasonally and have a minimal online presence. I’d probably still do most of what I do now - cooking from scratch, baking bread, but I’d have a lot less stress.
Adored this as it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently. For example, I want so badly to have a huge garden (and live in the Italian countryside) so for now while searching for apartments I’m looking for one that has a balcony I could grow small herbs & veggies on
That's an amazing pursuit!! So cool that you're taking small steps in the direction of it with searching for an apartment with a balcony. I'd be so curious to hear how you feel once you've achieved that! Good luck with the search.
I have been asking myself this for over a decade, and since then, I'm happy to say I've done several MVPs (I love tech references!). Writing my substack is one of them, and at my part-time work, I've been actively seeking roles that will fulfill me; at the moment, I am looking at building communities, developing people, and helping my company strategize. How we spend our days IS how we spend our lives, and if money is not a BIG thing, we should all actively cultivate the MVPs for our lives.
I agree with you - how we spend our days is how we spend our lives. And there are so many little things we can do each day so live a life that feels satisfying to us!
Travel the world!!! Which is why we bought a van, it’s going to look slightly different than it would if money were no object but it’s how we can make that dream happen
I love that. I've always dreamed of living in a van - I know that it's not all romantic and stuff but there is just something about it that makes it so desirable!
I like to think that if money wasn’t a thing, I wouldn’t live anywhere. I would travel around forever. But then I remember how much I love my friends and how much they mean to me, and I wonder if it’s really just money keeping in one place.
That's a very interesting perspective!! I think the key is that if money wasn't a thing you could design the life that incorporates both. Lots of travel and then at the same time lots of love coming home to our friends. Instead of having a permanent place to live where they live, you could come home for 1-2 months at a time and rent short-term. Because, money wouldn't be a thing.
Thank you for your words. I really love that way of thinking and truly enjoyed reading you!
Actually, I’m one of those people who (almost) wouldn’t change a thing, as I’m already living my dream. But if I didn’t have to worry about money, this would allow me to free myself from the side job I still do to reach an acceptable income, and I could dedicate 100% of my time to my life project (a holistic therapy center and pedagogic herbalist farm). It would also give me a healthier work schedule and more time with my family.
But I am working toward this and I am confident I’ll be able to achieve it in the coming year(s).
This is so cool to hear! You are already well on your way to achieving your dream. I love that. And what a beautiful place to be knowing that you (almost) wouldn't change a thing.
I like this response so much. So that means you really love working in academia? And I get it, buying a flat seems like a distant dream these days somehow.
Love this I have these conversations with my partner all the time so we remind ourselves of where we want to get to and the baby steps we can already take.
Would you share where you want to get to? I am always so curious and simply love these conversation. But I also understand if it’s too personal for you to share!
I love how you're saying that it keeps you going even if it doesn't end up happening. And who knows, maybe it will! Yellow is actually my favorite color. I've never considered the shade sunset yellow though, thanks for bringing that into my life!
That sounds like a dream - a house with a big garden and growing your own produce. I love yoga too, I do it every morning. I have also actually thought about doing a teacher training but haven’t committed yet.
Mine would be to try to become a pro padel player by the time I’m 45. I’m already playing 2-4 days a week, so I have an MVP. 🤣 Great post! Did you start your garden? 🪴
That is so cool!! I have never played padel but have heard so much about it. I should really try it out. Thanks for leaving your comment :) I haven't started my garden yet. I think we were too far into the summer when I thought about starting it. But it's for sure on my list for next year!
That is so awesome!! I think it's really about finding the essence of what your dream is. Which in your case, would be experiencing something new with your husband. And there you go, monthly date nights provide that for you! And then maybe at some point, you can make the dream of traveling the world a reality!
If money wasn’t a thing I would live near my sister and have a slow and simple life where I shop locally, eat seasonally and have a minimal online presence. I’d probably still do most of what I do now - cooking from scratch, baking bread, but I’d have a lot less stress.
Adored this as it’s something I’ve been thinking about a lot recently. For example, I want so badly to have a huge garden (and live in the Italian countryside) so for now while searching for apartments I’m looking for one that has a balcony I could grow small herbs & veggies on
That's an amazing pursuit!! So cool that you're taking small steps in the direction of it with searching for an apartment with a balcony. I'd be so curious to hear how you feel once you've achieved that! Good luck with the search.
I have been asking myself this for over a decade, and since then, I'm happy to say I've done several MVPs (I love tech references!). Writing my substack is one of them, and at my part-time work, I've been actively seeking roles that will fulfill me; at the moment, I am looking at building communities, developing people, and helping my company strategize. How we spend our days IS how we spend our lives, and if money is not a BIG thing, we should all actively cultivate the MVPs for our lives.
I agree with you - how we spend our days is how we spend our lives. And there are so many little things we can do each day so live a life that feels satisfying to us!
Travel the world!!! Which is why we bought a van, it’s going to look slightly different than it would if money were no object but it’s how we can make that dream happen
I love that. I've always dreamed of living in a van - I know that it's not all romantic and stuff but there is just something about it that makes it so desirable!
I like to think that if money wasn’t a thing, I wouldn’t live anywhere. I would travel around forever. But then I remember how much I love my friends and how much they mean to me, and I wonder if it’s really just money keeping in one place.
That's a very interesting perspective!! I think the key is that if money wasn't a thing you could design the life that incorporates both. Lots of travel and then at the same time lots of love coming home to our friends. Instead of having a permanent place to live where they live, you could come home for 1-2 months at a time and rent short-term. Because, money wouldn't be a thing.
This is the briefest most sensible thing I’ve read all month. Thank you for sharing.
I am so happy you found it then!
If money weren’t an issue, I’d probably have a vineyard too! Mine would be in the hills of Tuscany!
Oh yay, you’re the first one who also said vineyard!
Thank you for your words. I really love that way of thinking and truly enjoyed reading you!
Actually, I’m one of those people who (almost) wouldn’t change a thing, as I’m already living my dream. But if I didn’t have to worry about money, this would allow me to free myself from the side job I still do to reach an acceptable income, and I could dedicate 100% of my time to my life project (a holistic therapy center and pedagogic herbalist farm). It would also give me a healthier work schedule and more time with my family.
But I am working toward this and I am confident I’ll be able to achieve it in the coming year(s).
This is so cool to hear! You are already well on your way to achieving your dream. I love that. And what a beautiful place to be knowing that you (almost) wouldn't change a thing.
Very interesting. As somebody working in academia, I wouldn't quit my job. Buying a flat would be nice.
I like this response so much. So that means you really love working in academia? And I get it, buying a flat seems like a distant dream these days somehow.
Exactly!
Love this I have these conversations with my partner all the time so we remind ourselves of where we want to get to and the baby steps we can already take.
Would you share where you want to get to? I am always so curious and simply love these conversation. But I also understand if it’s too personal for you to share!
Having a lot less stress I think is one of the most common themes in the responses that I have gotten. It's the number one key factor for me too.
That is actually really interesting, you are right! It's just the type of "doing" that is so different for many of us out there.
I love how you're saying that it keeps you going even if it doesn't end up happening. And who knows, maybe it will! Yellow is actually my favorite color. I've never considered the shade sunset yellow though, thanks for bringing that into my life!
That sounds like a dream - a house with a big garden and growing your own produce. I love yoga too, I do it every morning. I have also actually thought about doing a teacher training but haven’t committed yet.
Mine would be to try to become a pro padel player by the time I’m 45. I’m already playing 2-4 days a week, so I have an MVP. 🤣 Great post! Did you start your garden? 🪴
That is so cool!! I have never played padel but have heard so much about it. I should really try it out. Thanks for leaving your comment :) I haven't started my garden yet. I think we were too far into the summer when I thought about starting it. But it's for sure on my list for next year!